The 6 Things That Have Helped Me Cope With My Miscarriage

You’ve had a miscarriage, it’s goddamn awful, horrendous – the most empty feeling there can possibly be, to have been pregnant and then not. And, if you’re anything like me then you’ve read as much as you can bear on various Google searches (read as Mumsnet chatrooms) You’ve read about those women who fall pregnant a month afterward a miscarriage (urgh), read about why it might have happened, the odds, that it wasn’t your fault etc etc. But other than reading things that might drive you a little crazy, what else should you be doing? Well, from my point of view, moving on from a miscarriage has been a slow and steady process. I like to think that I was lucky (ha, I try to find the positive) in that mine happened very early on, and beside my boobs – which were enormous – my body had only just begun to physically change. It’s obviously very different for all women, and no doubt how far along you were is a huge factor, but here are the things that I’ve realised I have had to accept, or things that have helped me cope with this rather horrible experience.

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Now You Are 4

My Little Whirlwind, you turn four tomorrow. Such a big and momentous moment for me, just another birthday as far as you’re concerned. My original plan had been to write you a post every year on your birthday, but, well I’m a bit rubbish at deadlines since having you and I’ve only managed one so far when you turned two, but lets not dwell too much on Mummy’s inability to commit to things shall we, we’re here to talk about you.

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Do You Self-Care?

Have you heard about or do you know what ‘Self-Care’ means? Is it something that’s on your radar or is it more in the Bermuda lost triangle zone as far as you’re concerned? Do you even know what I’m talking about?! Self care is essentially about taking responsibility for yourself, your health and mental wellbeing. It essentially means to look after YOU. I knew of the term but despite doing a lot of things for ‘myself’ I didn’t really acknowledge that what I was doing was called ‘self-care’. Listening to Women’s Hour on Friday (I know, I’m WILD) there was a segment about this topic, where it took one woman finding out she had cancer, going through all the treatment and coming out the other side, before she realised that she hadn’t been taking care of herself at all. She realised pre-diagnosis that she’d been burning candle at both ends, running herself into the ground working and partying too hard. Having cancer made her realise she needed to slow down and start loving herself a bit more. The programme really got me thinking. Certainly leading up to IVF I was really good at meditating on a regular basis, I was getting loads of sleep, drinking loads of water etc but then the pregnancy and sickness stopped all of that, and then after the miscarriage everything went to shit, quite frankly. I went off track by way of rebelling and showing my anger I suppose. I stopped doing all of the things that were good for ME. I realised that I hadn’t been looking after myself at all.

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Trialling Lush Aromaco Deodorant Bar

On my new quest (think me on a horse, dressed as a knight) to try and make a small difference to the amount of plastics and toxins within our home, I’ve spent quite a bit of time reading various websites and blogs, for tips on what we can do. And something that I kept coming across, was people recommending Lush products, and one product that stood out was their Aromaco Deodorant Bar. A natural product, no plastic container and very well received. This stood out for me as I’ve long had a problem with massively overheating (thanks Mum) but thankfully have never had an issue with excessive sweating on a day to day basis (obviously get me playing hockey on a sunny day, and this is a different story *beetroot-face*) and I definitely don’t smell, promise. The deodorant I was using to date had been working perfectly fine, however just before Xmas it suddenly stopped being effective. I’d find that doing very little would cause me to have huge wet patches under each arm. It was driving me mad until I joined the dots and realised that this was linked to my miscarriage, and what I presume to be my body ridding itself of pregnancy hormones. Thankfully the problem has calmed now after two months of being quite bad, I’m back ‘to normal’ (whatever that is!) Hence when I came across the Aromaco Bar I thought it would be worth a try.

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A Missed Miscarriage – A Different Tale To Tell

This post was supposed to be something else entirely. It was about now that I was due to share my exciting news with you all. News that I’ve literally been planning in my head for weeks now.  I’ve tried not to let my mind run away but you can’t help it. Finally after two and a bit years of trying for a second baby, our IVF back in September was successful. We were that couple who just needed a little IVF help and it worked first time! I’ve been smugly buying pregnancy vitamins and finally glancing that little bit longer at women with bumps thinking, ‘me soon’. And our awesome daughter was finally going to be a big sister. But, oh.

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