Why I Wish I Had Done More Team Sport As A Child

When I was growing up I loved sport and did all the classic activities like ballet, horse riding and tennis. I was obsessed with horses, was lucky enough to have my own and I played tennis at a club every Friday night. Every summer I laughed hysterically playing badminton in the garden (It’s funny when the shuttlecock gets stuck in the racquet, no?!), and my older brother always made me play cricket and rugby with him. I relished doing physical activities and was constantly outside doing sport of some kind. However the two main things that I did, riding and tennis were actually quite solitary sports. I often spent weekends on my own at my stables because no one else seemed to be around and at the tennis club, we were generally made to play singles matches, so I never had that feeling of being in a ‘team’. Fast forward a bit and suddenly my teenage angst years hit, boys came on the scene and I started to find these solo sports rather boring. This, coupled with a move to a new school for sixth form and the freedom that I was given, meant that my love of sport went out of the window. No longer made to do it as a compulsory lesson, I stopped it completely. The tennis club was ditched and my lovely horse was sold. Given the option to be lazy, I quite happily took it.


I was a typical Kevin the teenager. I had a terrible attitude in my teens and my mantra was, ‘it’s so unfair!’ Other than having boyfriend’s that my mum hated, after giving up sport I didn’t do anything else. I no longer had a horse to look after and I wasn’t a member of any teams so I had no commitment’s and never had that feeling that I was letting people down. Weekends were mine to just to hang around with friends in the park or do some underage drinking in a local pub. This laziness continued on to university and well into my twenties, where the only exercise I got was lifting the TV remote or a pint of beer (seriously) or occasionally I would walk somewhere but only at a push. My bone-idleness stuck with me until finally in my late twenties I got my butt out running one day. And when I finally met my husband, because he played hockey, I joined a hockey club. Now, in doing both these things I can understand and appreciate all the good things that sport can do. Obviously my past is exactly that, however I can see that had things been done differently, had I perhaps joined that school hockey, netball or running team, then maybe my teenage years and beyond might have been different. Not that I wish or can change things, however I believe had I been taking part in team sports or more group activities from a young age, then this might have carried on into my teen years and changed my attitude somewhat.

Now that I have a little girl, I often think of the sort of person I want her to become. I have many hopes and dreams for her of course, but one thing that I believe is, is that if she is involved in and playing sport, especially team sport from a young age, she will hopefully have instilled in her the core values that as a family, we will be teaching her too. Sport helps teach children lots of things, such as respect, honesty, teamwork, support, fair play, adherence to rules and an understanding of winning and loosing. I read this great article in the Telegraph online that quotes that, ‘Team sport, team activities and team challenges are as important to young people’s development and future success as any academic qualification. We must teach children to understand that we all make mistakes and that we are at our strongest when we show empathy and compassion to those around us. Equally we must teach them the resolve to come back from mistakes and the ability to learn from them so that we are stronger and better.’

I was incredibly selfish as a teenager, I never had anyone else to think about other than myself. I hope if Olivia is taking part in team sports then she will learn that sense of camaraderie and fun that comes with being amongst other children all doing the same thing. She will learn about supporting one another and that it is not always about her, there are others to consider too sometimes. Being part of a team can give you a great feeling, you learn how to work together as a unit. Yes, there may and will always be people better than you but you hopefully learn to accept that and work at what you are good at. These are all things I would love Olivia to learn about and experience.

I also hope that in being part of sport she will recognise the fantastic female role models there are, like Jessica Ennis-Hill and Kate Richardson-Walsh to name just two. These are strong women who excel in their sport and who show what dedication and hard work can get you. Kate Richardson-Walsh had her jaw broken by a hockey stick in the opening game of the Olympics 2012, however instead of rolling around crying like a footballer, after missing two matches she went on to captain her team in the final match which saw them win a Bronze medal. These aren’t women that you see falling out of nightclubs with their boobs or bottoms out. They aren’t pop stars like Miley Cyrus who openly smoke pot and wear tiny bits of clothing, not that I’m hating on Miley, I just wouldn’t fancy Olivia having her as an idol. These are sports women most definitely have a drink or two but it seems that it’s generally behind closed doors away from prying press eyes. They lead by example and that’s a great thing. These are the women I want my daughter to look up to.





6 thoughts on “Why I Wish I Had Done More Team Sport As A Child

  1. Wow, some pretty spot on thoughts from you there Em. It’s all too easy in our youth to get side tracked with the FUN (clubbing, drinking and waiting for the next party). But with age comes the ability to apply a little reflection and the ability to understand the benefits that sports can offer. Like you I had my sport that I participated in religiously (yacht racing). I agree that this taught me many valuable lessons. Again like you I abandoned this in my 20s, but for different reasons. Today I have managed to start up racing again, and enjoy doing so, often with the friends made in my 20s when out having fun. I like you wish my daughter to learn these valuable lessons that team sport can provide. I’ll be watching from the sidelines with a protective fatherly eye, rejecting on the fun I’ve had, and wishing the same for her.

    • Yep, totally the same Roj, we both recognise what we maybe should have done a bit more of when we were younger, we can’t change anything but we can recgonise where we went wrong and make things better for our girls, right? Thanks for commenting xx

  2. I loved all sport team or solo and horse riding ( well donkey in my case!) I have medals and trophies galore! I then changed ‘winning’ in sport to winning in my career. I totally believe in encouraging various sports to children and I can’t wait to scream on the judo, gymnastic, hockey, football, netball sidelines as my parents did. On those rare occasions I didn’t win after an initial sulk I learnt to get over it and would learn from any mistakes. I loved team banter too and the high fives and celebrations when goals were scored. What is not to love…I tried anything on offer from those previously listed to diving, lacrosse, cricket, skiing, tennis, badminton and kick boxing…quite the skill set!

    • Brilliant point Sam, that actually skills learnt in sport when younger & the confidence it can give you can continue right into our working life. Thanks for commenting x

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